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The work of a psychoanalyst who placed himself as a third party within the relationships of a young woman with her family, her psychotherapist and the staff of the day care centre which she goes to, allowed regular appointments with the couple of the parents and the young woman to constitute an intermediate area where it was possible to think the functioning of the family group and its history. The father and the mother were also allowed to present their daughter with their wish to hold a parental position which was occulted by the violence of the exchanges. Leaning on the presence of the psychoanalyst as a third party, the young woman could tell her parents of her contradictory request for autonomy and protection. The transference on the psychoanalyst, following the slow and progressive awareness of the latent meaning of each person’s behavior, allowed them to find again the tenderness they could not allow themselves to show any more since they all felt they are failing one another.