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A research project exploring the processes of parenthood and long clinical experience with pregnant women seeking help has led us to notice that for many women the period of gestation is a process during which these women’s feelings alternate between moments when they feel the need to refocus on themselves and their baby and other moments of sha­ring which are highly cathected. During the period of pregnancy, intimacy thus takes on a particular value, both in terms of a time of secrecy, and in thought and dialogue. Indeed, it is in this intimacy that the first links between mother and baby are formed, and between the baby and its father. For some of them it will be a totally new experience of intimacy, including at the level of their sexuality. It is within the secrecy of this same intimacy that others will decide to keep the gender of their child or the first name that they have chosen until delivery. The period of pregnancy, which we can also describe as “a period of intimacy,” thus seems to us to be particularly revelatory of what intimacy can be the seat of, and of the potentialities it can contain.