The Unrepresentable Conjugality of Parents and the Parenting of Lovers
Hareng, Tiphaine
The Unrepresentable Conjugality of Parents and the Parenting of Lovers - 2001.
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The “Access Center or ‘supervised visitation’” allows moving the internal conflict of a family, obviously centered on the child, on a psychosocial ground. This child existence is a condition to get the Access Center. Going to this place means for the family putting on stage the separation decided by the court. Ordered by the judge, it represents, throughout time and space, the intimate drama of a couple, enable to differentiate one another to accede to a distinctive parental role, to which yet refers the child’s conception. On this stage, the family produces, often in acts, representations conveying the nature of the family conflict not yet resolved. Thus the parents do not just perform under the eyes and for the benefits of the interveners, who may unconscioulsy be linked to the magistrate. Moved there, the conflict tends to repeat itself in order to be resolved, by working out or going beyond the couple’s violence. Having reached the term of this developmental process, each ex-spouse free him/herself. The child can place him/herself far from the conflict and identity intricacy. Each of them re-builts a global picture of the family origins and accedes to a three-dimensional temporality: before, after the conflict, and now.
The Unrepresentable Conjugality of Parents and the Parenting of Lovers - 2001.
11
The “Access Center or ‘supervised visitation’” allows moving the internal conflict of a family, obviously centered on the child, on a psychosocial ground. This child existence is a condition to get the Access Center. Going to this place means for the family putting on stage the separation decided by the court. Ordered by the judge, it represents, throughout time and space, the intimate drama of a couple, enable to differentiate one another to accede to a distinctive parental role, to which yet refers the child’s conception. On this stage, the family produces, often in acts, representations conveying the nature of the family conflict not yet resolved. Thus the parents do not just perform under the eyes and for the benefits of the interveners, who may unconscioulsy be linked to the magistrate. Moved there, the conflict tends to repeat itself in order to be resolved, by working out or going beyond the couple’s violence. Having reached the term of this developmental process, each ex-spouse free him/herself. The child can place him/herself far from the conflict and identity intricacy. Each of them re-builts a global picture of the family origins and accedes to a three-dimensional temporality: before, after the conflict, and now.
Réseaux sociaux