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Lacan states that love is always reciprocated. This statement, which at first seems paradoxical, is confirmed if love’s reciprocity comes from its negativity. The ancient myth of the two-backed beast embodies the powerlessness of a man and a woman to recover the primitive unifying One into a reality, each one being trapped in their unary nature. Considering gender differences, love pain is universal. Can this reciprocity be realized, as the Lacanian myth of the hand reaching toward the log assumes? The possible interferences between lovers’ love and transference love let the miracle of the “meta-love” emerge, which needs the creation of a third operational myth: the myth of the Four under the power of the return of the One. The meta-love experienced during analysis is no more than the return of the specular affect. During the mirror stage, the infans knew, once and for all, the happiness of mutual love, of positive reciprocity with the symbolic Mother. After letting the happiness of fusional love be inscribed in her baby’s unconsciousness, the mother has been able to disappear permanently, so that the child could give up this love and know the subjectifying foursome: Father-Mother-Child-Phallus. Thanks to this happy experience, the subject will later be able to feel other loves, whose negative reciprocity is just the reversed reflection of the early positive reciprocity.