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Using the results of an adolescent girl’s treatment, the author discusses a major discovery made during adolescence, i.e. the discovery of femininity as such, unknown until then to the subject, whether boy or girl. This “femininity as such” is construed by the subject as separate from the gendered being he/she considered him- /herself to be as a child. Childhood sexuality rests on phallic primacy, which limits relations with others. At puberty, the adolescent will denounce this phallic primacy as a regulating agent of his/her relationship to the outside world, as a limit to sexuality, and as a boundary to satisfaction. This “beyond” the phallic dimension, femininity as such, which is a type of satisfaction not fully marked by the phallic limit, must pass through unconscious logic, to allow the emergence of a heterosexual love relationship. The encounter with the difference – one that embodies all differences – is difficult for adolescents. This detour through femininity, which is a necessary disruption, can also be the cause of serious social and psychic disruptions in adolescents.