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Based on ten years of experience in the training of future marriage and family counsellors, the author points out some “traps” which inexperienced therapists may fall into during their work with couples. Amongst others, these are: focusing on the individual(s) while bypassing the relationship; endorsing the first definition of the problem; making an alliance with one of the two members of the couple; imposing too rigid a framework; and missing pertinent information, etc. To deal with these “traps,” the author proposes some very concrete methodological routes during the therapeutic relation. Without proposing “ready-made recipes,” this paper (re-)questions the methodological/conceptual bases of couple therapy: demand analysis, the neutrality issue, the therapeutic framework, the couple profile, etc. Furthermore, this paper invites the future counsellor to deconstruct certain beliefs regarding the acquisition of some therapeutic skills, the status of “Knowledge” and, moreover, the issue of aggressiveness.