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Many couples come to therapy with a request to improve their communication. However, words themselves appear to be dangerous, invested with real power over the other partner. What danger does the very fact of talking represent ? Describing the clinical situation of a re-united couple provides an opportunity to evoke various dimensions of conjugal psychotherapy including that of speech itself. Contradictions and paradoxes highlight the identity and sense of belonging related conflicts that inform the bond between the members of the couple. The use of the Word and its adverse effects show to what extent organised resistance of the couple takes place under the pretext of talking.It is then up to the therapist to facilitate a resolution by talking things through, working on the interactions and unconscious projections in the interrelation, to overcome the difficulties entailed in each of the partners being able to speak out.